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Apparently, Nobody Asked Me
Aug. 8th, 2007 09:14 pmI know this is a stupid Yahoo! "News" story, but I've addressed it before and the other side must be voiced: They must have only polled women who were trying to impress their gay "girl"friends, that's the only explanation I can come up with.
I've said it before, but it bears repeating: if I wanted to date a girly-man, I would date a girl. This is just one more instance of society castrating men as a whole and I'm getting sick of it. It's a classic double-standard: It's not politically correct for a guy to feel comfortable in his masculinity, but the carrot-eating, bra-burning, "Sleepless In Seattle"-watching, baby-killing dragons at NAG (National Association of Girls aka NOW), MUST feel comfortable in their "femininity" (and I use the term loosely in most cases) or there is the ACLU to pay and we get another lecture on how great affirmative action is *barf*.
By virtue of the fact that I have two X-chromosomes, feminists say you are obligated to listen to me so pay close attention: I WANT A MASCULINE MAN!!! I do NOT want a guy that happily watches chick flicks with me. I actually want a guy that suffers through it (it's a testament of his love for me). And if he chooses not to and go out and work on his truck, it's probably for the best because it would be weird to watch "Never Been Kissed" with my boyfriend. I want a guy for whom the world stops for SportsCenter. And I will most likely sit down to watch with him. I want a guy who has a hard time - *sigh* - expressing his feelings because that means the times that he gets emotional are the most poignant moments in his life (my dad is one of the most macho men I know personally. I've seen him cry twice in my life - once when my grandpa was in the hospital and at my grandma's funeral. The times when he got emotional were important and not-to-be-taken-lightly, hence, they meant more). Besides, I have enough emotional waterworks for the whole family.
I want a guy that is a guy and he likes being a guy and doing guy things. It's only fair because I am a girl and I like doing (some) girl things (I do a lot of weird things to balance out my lack of interest in things like clothes, shoes, makeup, etc.) I don't want my guy at my girls' night out deals and I don't want to hang out with the guys. There's a time and a place for everything (which, feminists missed that point: While they were insisting that women did not want to be kept in "their place" - which I suppose we take to mean the home with the kids - they forgot that men also had "their place" and that was working and providing for their families).
This crack "study" says that girly-men are good for "long-term commitments," but that's because these girly-men are wimps and they need a woman for protection. I don't want to be the man in the relationship - that's just weird. Manly-men do the protecting. Even if I never come upon a burglar or a rapist or a murderer, I will feel a lot better going out at night if someone like Jack Bauer is holding my hand rather than, say, Lynn McGill (there's a reason he snuffed it in Day 5).
And then there's this complete and abject lie that ALL masculine men are abusive. Nothing could be further from the truth. Certainly there are some insane wackos that need to be locked up and/or in the electric chair, but not all men are like that. Tell me if this doesn't piss you off: I saw a picture of a billboard that was an ad for abuse awareness. It showed an adult man's hand tenderly holding a child's hand (it was insinuated that the adult man was the child's father). The picture was captioned with the assumed mother and wife: "I don't feel right when I see them together."
OH MY FEMNAZI PILE OF BULLSHIT!!! Not every man with a truck and a football is a child-molester or a wife-beater. Basically, this is saying kids can't have a close relationship with their father without arousing suspicion, which means that mothers get the children in divorces (even if the mother is a complete dead-beat) and fatherless families are cropping up all over the place which means the kids don't have the example of a father in their lives and they grow up, meet someone to marry and the cycle continues.
(Please Note: I am speaking very generally. Not all mothers are dead-beats and some divorces are merited. I realize there are assholes in the world, BUT they account for a very small percentage of men. The vast majority of guys are decent, hardworking, loving people that don't do things that get them on the 10:00 news and give the rest of the male species a bad reputation).
If a guy is tough, macho and masculine, but respects women (normal women, mind. Not the aforementioned 24/7 PMS dragons), that is a whole lot honorable than a guy who paints his fingernails and gets facials. It means that he is secure being a guy, but he will treat his wife like his equal in marriage, parenting, running a household and life in general. And he will teach his sons the same things that he himself learned. In short - manly-men are good for families.
To conclude, this is a video of Brad Paisley singing a song from his most recent CD. It's called "I'm Still a Guy." The song (especially the third verse) illustrates perfectly what I'm trying to get at. I really hope this song gets on the radio and that Brad makes a video of it because I'm tired of this argument being so one-sided:
(The last few lines are "My eyebrows ain't plucked/There's a gun in my truck/Oh thank God/I'm still a guy." The crowd start going crazy right there and you can't hear it very well.)
I've said it before, but it bears repeating: if I wanted to date a girly-man, I would date a girl. This is just one more instance of society castrating men as a whole and I'm getting sick of it. It's a classic double-standard: It's not politically correct for a guy to feel comfortable in his masculinity, but the carrot-eating, bra-burning, "Sleepless In Seattle"-watching, baby-killing dragons at NAG (National Association of Girls aka NOW), MUST feel comfortable in their "femininity" (and I use the term loosely in most cases) or there is the ACLU to pay and we get another lecture on how great affirmative action is *barf*.
By virtue of the fact that I have two X-chromosomes, feminists say you are obligated to listen to me so pay close attention: I WANT A MASCULINE MAN!!! I do NOT want a guy that happily watches chick flicks with me. I actually want a guy that suffers through it (it's a testament of his love for me). And if he chooses not to and go out and work on his truck, it's probably for the best because it would be weird to watch "Never Been Kissed" with my boyfriend. I want a guy for whom the world stops for SportsCenter. And I will most likely sit down to watch with him. I want a guy who has a hard time - *sigh* - expressing his feelings because that means the times that he gets emotional are the most poignant moments in his life (my dad is one of the most macho men I know personally. I've seen him cry twice in my life - once when my grandpa was in the hospital and at my grandma's funeral. The times when he got emotional were important and not-to-be-taken-lightly, hence, they meant more). Besides, I have enough emotional waterworks for the whole family.
I want a guy that is a guy and he likes being a guy and doing guy things. It's only fair because I am a girl and I like doing (some) girl things (I do a lot of weird things to balance out my lack of interest in things like clothes, shoes, makeup, etc.) I don't want my guy at my girls' night out deals and I don't want to hang out with the guys. There's a time and a place for everything (which, feminists missed that point: While they were insisting that women did not want to be kept in "their place" - which I suppose we take to mean the home with the kids - they forgot that men also had "their place" and that was working and providing for their families).
This crack "study" says that girly-men are good for "long-term commitments," but that's because these girly-men are wimps and they need a woman for protection. I don't want to be the man in the relationship - that's just weird. Manly-men do the protecting. Even if I never come upon a burglar or a rapist or a murderer, I will feel a lot better going out at night if someone like Jack Bauer is holding my hand rather than, say, Lynn McGill (there's a reason he snuffed it in Day 5).
And then there's this complete and abject lie that ALL masculine men are abusive. Nothing could be further from the truth. Certainly there are some insane wackos that need to be locked up and/or in the electric chair, but not all men are like that. Tell me if this doesn't piss you off: I saw a picture of a billboard that was an ad for abuse awareness. It showed an adult man's hand tenderly holding a child's hand (it was insinuated that the adult man was the child's father). The picture was captioned with the assumed mother and wife: "I don't feel right when I see them together."
OH MY FEMNAZI PILE OF BULLSHIT!!! Not every man with a truck and a football is a child-molester or a wife-beater. Basically, this is saying kids can't have a close relationship with their father without arousing suspicion, which means that mothers get the children in divorces (even if the mother is a complete dead-beat) and fatherless families are cropping up all over the place which means the kids don't have the example of a father in their lives and they grow up, meet someone to marry and the cycle continues.
(Please Note: I am speaking very generally. Not all mothers are dead-beats and some divorces are merited. I realize there are assholes in the world, BUT they account for a very small percentage of men. The vast majority of guys are decent, hardworking, loving people that don't do things that get them on the 10:00 news and give the rest of the male species a bad reputation).
If a guy is tough, macho and masculine, but respects women (normal women, mind. Not the aforementioned 24/7 PMS dragons), that is a whole lot honorable than a guy who paints his fingernails and gets facials. It means that he is secure being a guy, but he will treat his wife like his equal in marriage, parenting, running a household and life in general. And he will teach his sons the same things that he himself learned. In short - manly-men are good for families.
To conclude, this is a video of Brad Paisley singing a song from his most recent CD. It's called "I'm Still a Guy." The song (especially the third verse) illustrates perfectly what I'm trying to get at. I really hope this song gets on the radio and that Brad makes a video of it because I'm tired of this argument being so one-sided:
(The last few lines are "My eyebrows ain't plucked/There's a gun in my truck/Oh thank God/I'm still a guy." The crowd start going crazy right there and you can't hear it very well.)
